Being yourself doesn’t help always, but still be yourself

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Q. Even though I can get dates, none of them seem to go anywhere. Maybe I’m too nervous, but girls don’t want to go out with me the second time.
All advice is wishy-washy and comes down to this: Be yourself, and everything will be fine. Which sounds great, unless you happen to be a nervous dweeb who seizes up at the thought of dating above your social caste, or at dating in general. In that case being yourself is not necessarily to your advantage, harsh as that may seem. But despair not. There are ways to allow your true self to come through. Take this quiz.
l You get a number. How soon do you call?
a) Immediately to confirm it is indeed a working number.
b) Never, because anyone who gives you her number is not worth dating anyway.
c) Thirty-six hours later.
l First-date venue?
a) A white linen, candlelit French-inspired restaurant.
b) Some place where she has a gift card.
c) A local coffee shop, with reservations at the bar and grill down the street.
l Post-date talk?
a) Thirty minutes later: “Like to spend the weekend with me at my ski cabin? Hello?
b) Text: “Sry abt the spilled coffee. Did it blister?”
c) E-mail 24 hours later: “That was fun — we should do it again. How about this Saturday?”
The answers, of course, are all ‘C’. Don’t be too serious! Oh, and, just be yourself!

http://www.deccanchronicle.com/headlines/being-yourself-doesn%E2%80%99t-help-always-915

Forget looks, talent is the new sexy

Forget looks, talent is the new sexy

When the matronly-looking, singing sensation Susan Boyle took the world by storm with her breathtaking voice, her unattractive looks were hardly on anyone’s mind. The lady who has never been kissed in her life suddenly had a line of men wanting to be the first one to kiss her and even marry her. And all those who thought famous women are a direct result of good looks were forced to think again. So is unattractive yet talented the new sexy for men?
VJ Cyrus Sahukar seems to think so. “Some of the most ordinary faces have become the world’s greatest sex icons,” he exclaims.
“Take Bob Dylan for instance, the man wouldn’t be considered attractive, if he couldn’t sing like he does. But yes, of course, popular notions of female beauty has made things harder for talented women, but at the end, looks don’t matter. Talent makes you sexy. In fact, attractiveness is ugly, if you don’t have a personality to match,” Cyrus says.
“Human beings are not so superficial. Frida, one of the most iconic Spanish painters was a sex symbol in her younger days. People who didn’t know her personally would even say she is ugly. But when you see her paintings and personality, you understand why all Spanish men lusted after her. So yes, ugly but talented is sexy,” he adds.
Other British female singers like Adele, and Lily Allen may be much more pound heavy than svelte, young pop icons of today, but they are more loved for their celebrated voices than their lack of well toned bodies, feels actor Sonu Sood.
Even Oprah Winfrey who would never be considered conventionally attractive made it to the list of sexiest women in the world, only thanks to her talent.
“Talent is a trait that can make anyone look highly attractive. And beauty is something that time will soon rob you off, but being gifted with a talent gives you an aura and a confidence that lasts you forever. All men will vouch for the fact that talent is almost magnetic is nature and draws everyone to you. There is no bigger turn on for a man than a woman who can do more than just look perfect,” Sonu says.
Some like television personality like Roshan Abbas, feel that a “beautiful mind” and great skill “makes up for a lot of other things”.
“Men would rather enjoy the company of a plain, intelligent women than a gorgeous woman with no brains. It is popular culture that has drilled the message into everyone’s heads that a woman has to be attractive to be successful. In the real world, people know better that life doesn’t work that way,” he says.

http://www.deccanchronicle.com/headlines/forget-looks,-talent-new-sexy-914

Wordl’s miracles born everyday -Hollie Steel on brit’s talent show

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People still born under the same stars, that we dreamed onces, they still offer the magic dust to us.

This little girl it’s showing us that A new World is Born everyday,we just have to see it, love it and show it to the rest of the worl, so they can learn, want and build over their dreams again.

A new country , anew wordl is born today with you Hollie Steels.

A girl full of virtues and solid pinciples from the early age of her life,a competitor for Britain;s got  Talent.

I say keep up the good work britain and build youreself a new country with youre most precious resources CHILDREN .

My distinguish regards to you Hollie

Alice B.

A World Full of Movies Where Kids Call the Shots

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“Sita Sings the Blues” screens at the New York International Children’s Film Festival. More Photos

Published: February 26, 2009

Sometimes the most interesting movie for children isn’t necessarily a children’s movie.

That seeming contradiction lies at the heart of the New York International Children’s Film Festival, which this Friday begins three weekends of screenings, filmmaker visits and voting, culminating in a juvenile version of the Oscars: a prize ceremony and reception on March 15. While the festival’s 100 films from 30 countries offer plenty of animation and fantasy, they also delve into real-world conflicts that affect children’s lives.

“With a great many of these films, the filmmaker would say, ‘That’s not a kids’ movie,’ ” Eric Beckman, who founded the festival in 1997 with his wife, Emily Shapiro, said in an interview.

This year’s programs include the American animated feature “Sita Sings the Blues,” Nina Paley’s interweaving of the Indian epic Ramayana with the autobiographical story of a female filmmaker’s marital collapse. Not intended as a children’s film, it is recommended for age 9 and older. A Chinese news documentary, “Circus School,” explores the grueling training of young acrobats (age 12 and older).

Films specifically for children also often explore serious themes. Friday night’s opening gala features the American premiere of the French and Italian animated feature “Mia and the Migoo” (age 7 and older), directed by Jacques-Rémy Girerd. It follows a girl’s quest to save her father, a laborer trapped at a construction site that also threatens the Tree of Life. “Battle for Terra” (7 and older), an American animated feature (sold out), focuses on the peaceful beings of Terra, who are threatened by human survivors fleeing a destroyed Earth.

“It looks at imperialism by taking an alien-invasion genre and flipping it,” the director, Aristomenis Tsirbas, said in a phone interview. “Here, we’re the aliens.” He added, however, that there were moral ambiguities on both sides. Ethical questions also fill the festival’s first Children & War series; the boy in the Indian film “Tahaan” (age 8 and older) is asked to commit a terrorist act. In another first, the festival has a movie for those no younger than 14: the Canadian feature “West of Pluto,” in which teenagers talk and act, well, like teenagers.

“It’s eye opening without being horrifying,” Mr. Beckman said. And while the festival includes five showings of “Shorts for Tots” (ages 3 to 6) and films like “Secret of Moonacre” (ages 5 to 12), a Hungarian, British and French live-action feature about a magic necklace, it generally aims older than the BAMkids Film Festival, this weekend at the Brooklyn Academy of Music. (See Spare Times, Page 30.)

The New York festival’s short films compete for prizes. Children vote for the best in each of six programs and for the grand winner. An adult jury — including actors, directors and producers, among them Susan Sarandon, Gus Van Sant, Christine Vachon, John Turturro and Evan Shapiro (president of IFC TV and the Sundance Channel) — also awards a prize.

In recent years the festival has broadened its reach, with monthly screenings in New York and other cities, as well as films on its Web site, gkids.com. In 2008 it began a foray into theatrical distribution, releasing the French writer and director Michel Ocelot’s animated feature “Azur & Asmar” (also in the festival, for age 6 and older) into about 50 markets nationwide so far.

“I never made a film for children,” Mr. Ocelot said in an e-mail message. “That’s the reason why they like my films.” “Azur & Asmar,” about the fateful friendship of two boys — Azur, blond and blue-eyed, and Asmar, dark-skinned and Arabic-speaking — was originally destined for a straight-to-DVD American release.

“With Hollywood movies, so much money is at risk that few chances are taken,” Mr. Beckman said. By relying on word of mouth, reviews and Internet publicity rather than costly advertising, he intends to bring younger audiences more daring work. “Some of the films playing this festival will have a life beyond New York,” he predicted.

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/02/27/movies/27chil.html?_r=1&8dpc

Memo-Plus pentru idioti ce fac modificari in locul meu

Transmit intr-un mod foarte calm si civilizat un mesaj pentru cei ce fac modificari , chipurile fara atenta mea observatie, in bunul plac, cu discretia neavuta de rigoare binenteles.Cateva persoane cu un IQ sub mediocru, tind spre ceva ce e imposibil de dobandit :dezvoltarea intelectului peste limitele admise de natura, prin codul genetic.

As trasmite toate cele bune celor ce fac efortul asta, dar dupa cum se vede, sunt toate cele rele si evidente de la o posta,fiind un esec construit deja de ei , din start.

In schimb va pot ura La mult creier si mai putin cliseu est -european in caracter, ce se desprinde din lumea comunista( curiozitate exageratavizavi de alti in nedescoperirea sinelui,avaritia exagerata,vederea de cal,netrasparenta in dialog, incapabil de loialitate nici macar propriului individ, lipsa valorilor in viata, instabilitate mentala impusa si multe altele…)

Orice persoana poarta un cod energetic-informativ,gandindu-l prea mult si prea tare se aude sau se transmite evident, putini sunt capabili sa isi controleze energia, in general persoanele impulsive sau creatoare de intriga sunt cel mai usor de observat.

Pentru aprofundare recomand lectura de specialitate, repet ce e facut pentru fatada si imagine tot asa ramene , nu dezvolta instrumente si nici nu prezinta un real interes.

Cu apreciere,

Alice B.

A present for my valentine!

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A pear of shoes would be perfect for my Valentine, for a good memory I offer him the red pare, to show everybody in the future how much he was loved in that day.Just for you baby!next please!

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We fight, we brake up, we kiss, we make up!

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Nearly everyone has experienced a relationship breakup or divorce and it can be one of the most painful periods in your life as you try to heal your broken heart.  What we have discovered in our relationship coaching practice, many breakups don’t have to happen.

So, if breakups don’t have to occur, what cases them and how can you prevent them?Here are four ideas to help you better understand why breakups happen and what you can do to prevent them in your relationship.

1. Old Fears Surface.

It’s to be expected that being in an intimate relationship will inevitable bring up fears and challenges from the past.  These might include fearing not being good enough, attractive enough, wealthy enough or even feelings of abandonment.  If fears are not expected, looked at and healed, they interfere in some way or another with the health of every relationship. Take some time to notice when the fears surface, be loving with
yourself but look inward instead of outward blaming your partner for what clearly is your issue.
Ask yourself if your fears are “true” or are you just making “stories” up in your head.  If you are creating those “stories” and there’s no basis of truth to them, then change your thinking.  It’s not always easy to do and it takes moment by moment monitoring of your
thoughts. If you need help and support to make the changes you want in your life, be courageous enough to get it.

You may not have healed your broken heart from past relationships that ended and you find it very difficult to trust your current partner or open your heart completely to him or her.  We suggest that you stop living from the hurt of those past relationships and bring yourself into the present moment, without continuing the “stories” of the past.  Commit to starting over, allowing your fears to be there but reminding yourself that this is a new day.

2.  Not Feeling Understood, Valued, Loved and Appreciated.
Everyone wants to feel understood, valued, loved and appreciated and when we’re not, we tend to either withdraw or attack the other person for not meeting our needs.  If you want to be appreciated, start appreciating the other people in your life.  Sounds simplistic but it really works!
If you are not feeling loved, start being open to seeing and feeling love and appreciation that people are giving you that you may not be aware of in your daily life.  It may be that someone allows you to go ahead of them in traffic or tells you to go ahead in a grocery line.  Send some appreciation back to them and to everyone around you and watch love snowball in your life.
3.  Not Making their Relationship a Priority.
Many couples take each other for granted and don’t give their relationship the attention it needs most of the time. The lack of closeness and connection can be overwhelming and can cause great loneliness.  Make your relationship a priority in your life.  Set aside time everyday to connect with your partner.
We believe that sex happens long before the bedroom.  It starts all day long when you have thoughts about your partner–Are these thoughts positive or negative?  It continues when you come together–Are you happy to see each other and express love and appreciation or do you great each other with a laundry list of chores, things to be done or grievances?
These are just a couple of ways we make our relationship a priority. Try them in yours!
4.  One or Both People are Made to Feel They are “Wrong.”
One of the biggest mistakes people make is that they make each other wrong.  As soon as critical words are said, defenses and walls go up and suddenly that person who you love and they love you becomes an “enemy.”
Before you jump into blaming and judging your partner, stop and take a moment to breathe. Ask yourself if making your partner wrong will drive you further apart or move you closer toward healing.  Open your heart to understanding the dynamics of what’s going on between the two of you. Understand the full story before you start making someone wrong.  So often we assume to know what is in someone’s heart and we really don’t.  Take the time to find out!

5. Not healing your heart after a previous relationship breakup
Many people go from relationship to relationship without truly healing their hearts. They never discover what went wrong in their previous relationship and what they could have done differently.  They keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again and always expect a different outcome.

We suggest that you take the time to heal your broken heart and your attachment to being a victim, in being right or whatever holds you to a previous relationship.  Spend some energy in taking responsibility for what happened, forgiving yourself and your previous partner, and deciding what you want to change in your life.

http://www.collinspartners.com/relationships/5reasonscouplesbreakup.html

DeLonghi into retro look, as cool as posible for 2009!

DeLonghi Icona Retro Inspired Toaster & Kettle Bring 1950’s Glamour to Your Kitchen

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DeLonghi have announced their new Icona retro inspired Toaster and Kettle which offer a modern take on 1950’s styling that are sure to bring a little retro cool glamour to your kitchen.

These Icona appliances are available in a choice of colours (Pearl White, Azure Blue, Scarlet Red, Onyx Black and Silver), feature high gloss finishes and are made from stainless steel with the Icona kettle offering rapid boil and removable scale filter and the Icona toaster offering 4-slice toasting with removable crumb filter.

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The DeLonghi Icona retro inspired toaster and kettle are expected to retail for around £60 each from John Lewis.

http://www.e-potpourri.com/index.php/2008/04/10/delonghi-icona-retro-inspired-toaster-kettle-bring-1950s-glamour-to-your-kitchen/

New Year for everybody, a beautiful year for children and a warm , calm and open for adults!

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bodies everywhere, but we can’t see them!

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Visitors walk past a sculpture by British artist Anthony Gormley, entitled “Close I”, at the Museum of Contemporary Art, MARCO, in Monterrey, northern Mexico November 20, 2008. Gormley’s exhibition will open at the MARCO on November 21.

reuters.com/art